YOU ARE WORTH IT!
Tell yourself everyday
I LOVE MYSELF
I AM BEAUTIFUL
DON'T LOOSE FAITH YOU'VE GOT THIS!
Having a healthy mind set can be challenging, especially when you may have been beating yourself up. Eating that tub of ice cream, or an extra piece of that cake, or maybe even the whole cake. Drinking that bottle of wine whatever it may be. This is a very damaging process and can be the root problem to your challenges and failures. I see a failure or a setback as a learning curb, why do we start out so strong and something as little as food can bring it all down so quickly? You know, and it might not even be food for you it might be something else that's your 'weakness'. Weakness ....... see here is another word we use often, is emotional eating a weakness? I don't believe it is. There's so many ways to describe emotional eating, but its just that isn't it emotional eating. Half the time I didn't even know that's what I was doing, in most cases it was out of boredom that I ate, other reasons were because I was upset. Upset about what? Now this is the real question that needs to be answered. To be able to really succeed on any lifestyle change, we need to get to the root problem.
WHAT IS THE ROOT PROBLEM?
You know you just don't sit around one day and decide "oh I'm going to get fat now". No there is a reason for that weight gain. For me my weight problems started when I first started to have children. Now this was 10 years ago, in this time my weight has gone from morbidly obese to underweight to obese to normal to morbidly obese again. Why? Why had my weight fluctuated so badly over 10 years why couldn't I stay in the healthy weight range. I ate healthy didn't I? Yes I did eat healthy food, but I also ate a lot of crap foods too. Too much alcohol, foods high in saturated fats, salts, sugars. No! I wasn't too healthy after all.
When I first started to exercise the thought of getting on the scales was confronting. Now how could you imagine I felt when the figure was not only triple digits but after my first month of sweat, hard work and determination, that figure went up. Yep not down but UP! This was embarrassing for me, even though my measurements went down that number on the scale was everything. Now I have spoken about this before and if you have read any of my blog you will know how this was for me. Now that I have been on this journey for over a year, I have come to realise that the number on the scale is just that ..... A NUMBER!
I started off worrying about the number on the scale, then the number on the measuring tape, after this was the size of my clothes, and the whole time being so hard on myself. I still had a negative mindset, just know instead of telling myself I was fat, I was telling myself what I was doing was just not good enough. I didn't ask for help and I wasn't being honest with myself, I just did what I thought was working. Be brutally honest with yourself, no one needs to know you're 'demons' after all we all have them. I think what I'm trying to say is, identify and address the root problem, really look at your behaviours and self analyse why you think you do this. If this is hard for you ask someone for help. This is the hardest thing you will EVER do, as no one really wants to feel analysed and judged. If you reach someone will surprise you, and want to help you.
Perusing the world wide web the other day I noticed a shirt, written on it was - 'I am never going to be my original weight again, after all 6lb 8oz is just unreasonable' This sort of light hearted humour at first would have made me upset, but now just reminds me to not take things so seriously. YES loosing weight is a serious matter, just don't be so serious about everything all the time. The ideals that we have in our heads and what is perceived as healthy are so unrealistic. This perpetuated image that is socially acceptable as healthy is all but accurate.
Now I haven't disclosed to you yet that I am in training to be a personal trainer. Going into the course I was nervous that I wouldn't fit the "mould". My perception of what a personal trainer looks like was so unrealistic, but why did I have this way of thinking? The media portrays such an idealistic view of what being healthy "looks" like, is this where my previous disposition was born? Yes, I do say previous as I have come to realise that being a trainer has nothing to do with being a size 8 and ripped like Arnie. Recently having a conversation with a very close friend who started a job at the gym, I came to realise other people have this same perception of what is expected walking in to gym. She is healthy but not a size 8, and believed she wouldn't get the job because of this. This is a sad notion to admit, and I wonder how many other people out there think the same way?
WHY IS THIS THE ACCEPTED LOOK?
So if any of this is making sense you're not alone, keep going talk to people about what it is your feeling. Ask your friends, trainers, families questions, if you think its silly I assure you its not. This will help you in the process of change. You are worth it.
Now lets talk about nutrition, and fad diets.
What is a fad diet?
Yeah we all know these ones and I bet we can all say we've tried one, looked into one, know someone that's on one. Learning to eat right is not a one package deal, it takes a long time to train yourself to eat correctly, and listen to what your body is trying to tell you. Do you know when you are thirsty apposed to hungry? Do you know when your body is dehydrated or lacking a vitamin? Did you say no? If you are in this category don't worry you're not alone. I have one rule I follow 'eat in moderation'. Everything is 'healthy' in moderation you can eat chocolate just not the whole bar. Yes you can eat pasta, just portioned controlled amounts. To know this knowledge will truly help you, and the longevity of your healthy lifestyle. Talk to a nutritionist, sign up to programs like 12WTB where qualified nutritionist give you meal plans. Educate yourself and ask for guidance, you can do it - remember "you're worth it".
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